Trauma Healing: Why You Keep Repeating Old Patterns

It’s one of the more disorienting experiences in trauma healing.   You’ve done the work. You know exactly where the pattern comes from.  You can trace it back to the specific dynamic, the specific person, maybe even the specific age. You’ve talked about it. You’ve journaled about it. You understand it with a clarity that… Continue reading Trauma Healing: Why You Keep Repeating Old Patterns

What’s Really Behind Conflict Avoidance

Conflict avoidance. You know the moment right before it happens. The other person says something that lands wrong: clearly unfair or so far from what actually happened that your whole body registers it before your mind can organize a response.   For a second, you know what you want to say. Then something changes.  … Continue reading What’s Really Behind Conflict Avoidance